The Quiet Rebellion of a Woman Who Walks Alone

Little Black Girls Deserve More Than Survival—And So Do You

I remember when I was a little girl, my brother asked me, “How is it that you think the way you do?” That question has stayed with me—more now than it did back then. It’s one I’m still trying to answer. While it’s not 100% clear to me, the more I question things and refuse to take everything at face value, the more I realize my ancestors and spiritual guides offer me new perspectives. I am learning to embrace the perspectives that go beyond my own. 

I’m learning to take the driver’s seat with my emotions. Sometimes, I think that can be scary—not just for people who meet me, but for me too. Most people tend to be codependent, but I haven’t had that luxury in my life. Instead, I’ve cultivated emotional independence. No one else is responsible for my happiness—that’s something I must create for myself first.

As I develop my own sense of self and awareness, I see just how high my standards are. I’m not a group-think type of thinker, yet the way I present allows me to hide in plain sight. 

People rarely suspect my power—it’s almost a point of fascination. Not in a way that makes me want to retaliate, but in how I give others space to be at ease, to be themselves, and in doing so, reveal who they truly are. Often, many know its something different about me, but can never pinpoint it. 

I notice what people don’t say—the masks, the desperate need to fit in even when it harms them, the "group think" that keeps them trapped in comfort, never challenging even the so-called "alpha" of the pack. Meanwhile, I don’t care for social hierarchies, especially when I see the harm they tend to often cause. I embody IDGAF at a core level—so deeply that, at first, it scared me. I now see this as a superpower. The more detached I am able to be, the more I am able to be authentic and stand in my truth. 

A Woman for Women and Girls

I am a woman for women and girls, and I’ve come to center little girls—especially Black little girls—in my heart. They deserve more than just survival. They deserve joy, abundance, and safety.

When I tell people I spend a lot of time alone, many can’t comprehend the lack of friend groups. But that need for "belonging" to a big crowd was never mine. I’ve tried it, but I always fall outside the group-think. I’m a leader on my own path—I refuse to limit myself. I’m more of a wanderer, treating interactions as experiences. Some people stay for a long ride, others for a short one. Either way, it’s beautiful. And I am able to find the beauty in them and connections in general, because I am able to see them and appreciate them for what they are. My life is ever evolving and changing, my experiences don’t fall insync with anyone that I know, I understand that this isn’t the norm. 

Life, to me, is a series of experiences. I have too many questions, and if I’m growing, I’m willing to go places many would find uncomfortable. And that’s okay. I’ll go beyond the conventional because the "standard blueprint of society” doesn’t bring me happiness.

How to Get Here? 

• Normalize not looking outside yourself for answers. 
• Normalize not needing closure. If someone stops speaking to you, so what? Maybe their path no longer requires your attention. That’s okay. Remember we all are on a journey. 
• Normalize not needing an explanation for everything. People’s actions are theirs.
• Normalize detachment. Society frames it as a bad thing, but it’s not. We meet too many people in a lifetime to be energetically attached to every single person. Detachment lets you see more. To appreciate people for the moment, the time, experience etc..
• Normalize learning from others’ mistakes. Sometimes, someone else’s story can be enough. If a woman tells you the stove is hot, and you see it burned 100 other women who touched it before you—why touch it? Skip the lesson. Move on.

Too often, people are overly invested in others instead of radically focused on themselves. Flip it. Be invested in you. There’s so much of yourself you haven’t discovered yet. How can you pour energy into others while leaving yourself unexplored?