Future of Black Women and Girls

  My words aren't for validation—they’re for liberation. We, as Black women and girls, are standing at a pivotal point in time. A moment full of opportunity. A moment calling us to shape a future that reflects who we truly are. But no one outside of us can speak to this shift. We are the  standard-setters . The blueprint. The origin. And yet, we’ve spent generations pouring into everyone else—empowering the world—while deeply underestimating our own power. That stops now. We’ve been trying to change society’s systems—political, communal, cultural—through reason, through voice, through logic. But let’s be honest: it hasn’t worked. Not because we aren’t powerful, but because we’ve been playing within rules designed to keep us small. It’s time to go beyond the illusion.  Beyond what’s “reasonable.” Beyond what’s been handed to us. It’s time to  go within . To remember who we are. To become solution-focused, future-oriented, and self-preserving. We are not powerless. We ...

This rising, I experienced something undeniable—a clarity that cut through the noise. I listened to a panel of powerful women who weren’t just talking solutions—they were the solutions. And in that moment, I realized something that’s been whispering to me for years: There is a loop —a spiritual, emotional, and systemic cycle—designed to keep women, especially Black women , stuck. Stuck performing. Stuck overgiving. Stuck being available to everything but our own expansion. And here’s the wild part: men benefit when we stay in that loop. 🔴 They benefit when we’re tired. 🔴 They benefit when we’re distracted. 🔴 They benefit when we think we need them to define our worth, value, or destiny. But what happens when a woman says: “No more.” What happens when she limits access to her energy—not out of pain, but out of power ? The Liberation in Limiting Access Too often, we mistake visibility for freedom. We think showing up in every room, being everything to everyone, and being se...

I’m so over the merry-go-round of relationships and marriage conversations. I’m hoping Black women and girls truly get to a point where we collectively see how harmful and paralyzing this obsession is. From the fantasies to the fairytale movies—sis, with love, let it go. Find a way to question and get to the root of what you desire. This life promises none of us anything, let alone a “forever partner.” I dare to ask: are you not seeing how even the most successful women are facing the same exact things the average woman deals with when it comes to men? Do you not see the parallels in both experiences? Beyoncé herself was cheated on. Now ask yourself—what makes you any different? Women and girls have been placed at such a disadvantage— a dangerous disadvantage —in the dating game. Let me take it further and use a basketball analogy. Some women were coached before they ever stepped into the gym. Those with attentive parents—especially fathers—came in with knowledge and confidence...

This rising, as I was diving into some historical research and doing my usual deep work of self-discovery, a realization hit me. I started thinking about the game of chess—not just as a pastime, but as a metaphor for power, roles, and the systems we've inherited without question. On the surface, chess is about strategy, hierarchy, and dominance. And within this structure, the King is considered the most important piece. But... is he really? Let’s think about this. The King barely moves. He stays protected. Sheltered. His movements are limited. Meanwhile, it’s the Queen who moves across the board with power, precision, and range. She holds down the front lines, makes the boldest plays, and adapts with unmatched fluidity. She’s the powerhouse. So why is the King still considered the most important piece? That question stirred something deeper in me. Because it mirrors a societal pattern we’ve been sold for generations: a system where male authority is centered, even when it’s often d...

Now  before  you  go  judging,  ask  yourself— are  you  open  to  a  new  perspective?  If  the  answer  is  no,  this  may  not  be  the  post  for  you.  However,  if  you  have  the  courage  to  be  open  to  another  perspective  that  brings  a  different  point  of  view  you  may  not  have  considered— one  that  could  potentially  spark  a  light  within,  to  probe  for  more  information  beyond  this  post— then  keep  reading. Let  me  first  start  by  letting  you  know  a  bit  about  myself.  I,  too,  began  in  the  church— raised  in  it  fro...