Future of Black Women and Girls

I’m so over the merry-go-round of relationships and marriage conversations. I’m hoping Black women and girls truly get to a point where we collectively see how harmful and paralyzing this obsession is. From the fantasies to the fairytale movies—sis, with love, let it go. Find a way to question and get to the root of what you desire. This life promises none of us anything, let alone a “forever partner.” I dare to ask: are you not seeing how even the most successful women are facing the same exact things the average woman deals with when it comes to men? Do you not see the parallels in both experiences? Beyoncé herself was cheated on. Now ask yourself—what makes you any different? Women and girls have been placed at such a disadvantage— a dangerous disadvantage —in the dating game. Let me take it further and use a basketball analogy. Some women were coached before they ever stepped into the gym. Those with attentive parents—especially fathers—came in with knowledge and confidence...

This rising, as I was diving into some historical research and doing my usual deep work of self-discovery, a realization hit me. I started thinking about the game of chess—not just as a pastime, but as a metaphor for power, roles, and the systems we've inherited without question. On the surface, chess is about strategy, hierarchy, and dominance. And within this structure, the King is considered the most important piece. But... is he really? Let’s think about this. The King barely moves. He stays protected. Sheltered. His movements are limited. Meanwhile, it’s the Queen who moves across the board with power, precision, and range. She holds down the front lines, makes the boldest plays, and adapts with unmatched fluidity. She’s the powerhouse. So why is the King still considered the most important piece? That question stirred something deeper in me. Because it mirrors a societal pattern we’ve been sold for generations: a system where male authority is centered, even when it’s often d...

Now  before  you  go  judging,  ask  yourself— are  you  open  to  a  new  perspective?  If  the  answer  is  no,  this  may  not  be  the  post  for  you.  However,  if  you  have  the  courage  to  be  open  to  another  perspective  that  brings  a  different  point  of  view  you  may  not  have  considered— one  that  could  potentially  spark  a  light  within,  to  probe  for  more  information  beyond  this  post— then  keep  reading. Let  me  first  start  by  letting  you  know  a  bit  about  myself.  I,  too,  began  in  the  church— raised  in  it  fro...

Let’s be real—life is full of distractions. But the deepest work begins with  self-actualization . And for Black women and girls, one of the biggest distractions we face is the game of dating—a game that’s had a tight grip on us for far too long. The truth is, we need the courage to see our desire for men and relationships for exactly what it is: often a distraction dressed up as destiny. What if I told you that as you grow and master the art of  detachment , you begin to see men for who they truly are—outside of the fairytales and without the rose-colored glasses? What if I told you that your very life, your purpose, your peace, could depend on this realization? Many women are out here wondering why they can’t find the work they love. Why they feel stuck in  survival mode . Why they haven’t tapped into their highest path. I believe so much of this has to do with our  energy drains —the emotional labor we pour into others while neglecting ourselves. When your energy ...

To move forward, we must first look back—with clarity, intention, and wisdom. Our past holds more than pain; it holds patterns, lessons, and undeniable truths. As Black women, it is essential that we study those patterns not just to reflect but to  respond . The events of the past should become our stepping stones—not stumbling blocks. They offer the blueprint for building a future where Black women and girls are not just surviving but  thriving . We cannot afford to believe the lie that only one of us can win. It can’t be “just one.” It must be  all of us . Our liberation, safety, and success are collective. The way we come together, the way we build community, and the way we lay a foundation for the next generation—it matters deeply. We are not meant to walk this journey alone. The strength, power, and genius of Black women lies in our ability to gather, unite, and move with intention toward a greater vision. Why Individual Success Isn’t Enough Anymore This is about mor...

It’s clear to me. Even looking at the current state of the world here in 2025, there’s a constant call for Black women to step in—to support the causes of everyone else. What that tells me is this: Black women, by and large, are the only ones truly capable. No one else really wants to do it. Black women are not only fit but  highly effective  at creating the change the world says it wants to see. Black women + power go together  real bad . It’s been a long-overdue journey to return to ourselves—but we are well on our way. Black women are the blueprint. So of course, we’re returning to the "drawing board"—not to save the world, but to tap into Source and redesign the systems we’ve long been excluded from. Only this time, it’s different. Black women are turning inward. We’re centering  self  in a way we hadn’t in the past. We’re using our power to benefit  ourselves — first —before anyone else. Because we now understand, clearly, what happens when we become t...

It’s something from both personal experience and observation that I have come to understand. Black women, we do not belong in corporate workplaces. I believe this is also spiritual to some degree—that this is true. It’s in every way much like throwing ourselves to the wolves by entering those places, only to turn around and then have our younger girls be “trained” to assimilate and enter said places without any protection. No. The buck stops with me. This has long been my journey—to help support creating safe workplaces for Black women and girls through my businesses. I want to change the standard for women and girls coming up, so that we too deserve to be heard and protected. Doing this means doing things differently, expanding both the approach and how we decide to essentially do business from the inside out. I remember when I began putting the pieces together. I remember thinking about how Black girls are forced into assimilating...